Blastoidea Yeah, I went through this as well. My rule was that I was not giving any personal information (ie phone number) to the app. I narrowed it down to Session and Matrix.
It seems there is no perfect app but Session seems to work the best for me and my family. There were some issues with prior versions where notifications weren't sent, etc but that seems to be fixed.
And yes, convincing people to switch is hard. So I took the stubborn approach: use Session or don't bother messaging me. I had one hold out friend who tried to convince me to use WhatsApp, she just calls me now. :)