r134a In my case i had also 4g only, but for some reason, probably maintenance or something, the towers in my neighborhood didn't allow 4g calling and probably told the phone to downgrade to 3g, which my phone rejected since i told it to do so with that setting.
3G support shut down where I live, before I even had GrapheneOS. So it wouldn't be able to downgrade at all to 3G because there isn't even 3G with basically any mobile carrier (or any MVNO that utilizes their networks). The only options are 4G LTE and 5G basically. My 4G LTE signal is usually pretty reliable, while 5G is technically "better" but it's a newer technology and in the GrapheneOS's "Usage" section mentioning "LTE-only mode" it mentions it as disabling "bleeding edge code" versus the "legacy code" of 3G, 2G, etc. Now, I'm not sure after all this time with 5G being out in my area that the "bleeding edge code" matters much at all and honestly I'm curious if "LTE-only mode" is redundant at this point for anybody living in a country that has had 5G for a long enough time for day zero/one bugs or vulnerabilities to be squashed relating to 5G.
r134a Perhaps it is possible on stock aswell to test this '4g only' and for example 'prefer 4g' (which wouldn't reject a downgrade to 3g if 4g not available), but im not sure?
On the stock Pixel operating system, you can choose a "Preferred network type" which is kind of like "LTE-only mode" except it isn't actually "LTE-only" but rather tells the phone to prefer 4G LTE or whichever network type you prefer (if I select 3G or 2G it just defaults to LTE instead), and if that doesn't work, use 5G (the only other option for me I guess). In the time I've been on stock I haven't had a single issue yet relating to the SIM not being recognized, so eventually when I go back (assuming this keeps up and there's no issues on stock), I might try what you said:
r134a IF it seems however that after some time on stock, the issue is not reoccuring, and u revert back to GrapheneOS, u might want to test it with not 'LTE only', before pointing it to a potential bug.
and just try not having it set to "LTE-only" and see if my mobile carrier just hates me and wants me to use 5G (or have it enabled) otherwise it just flat out doesn't work consistently. However I haven't gotten a single notice (text message from my carrier) of an outage related to 4G LTE (usually if there's something wrong they'll at least send a text referring to maintenance occurring), and I was using "LTE-only mode" for basically a year before I even had any issues with the feature, so maybe my carrier changed something related to their cell towers in the past couple of months that negatively effects users using the "LTE-only mode" on GrapheneOS. I use a major cell phone carrier though, so you'd think hundreds of GrapheneOS users would complain of such a problem, not just @Ppoo and me, so maybe it's just the cell towers in my local area?
If somehow that doesn't work, the only other option is that it's a GrapheneOS bug unrelated to the "LTE-only mode", which has only affected two people (that have made a post about it). I'm not even sure how I would report that honestly.