rellhom Is it the case that "people who were serious" can also see that we are using a privacy OS in general and plausibly be extra-interested?
It's hard to answer that question in the abstract. Personally, part of my operating assumption is that if anybody genuinely well-resourced (national government, criminal gang) decided to spend genuine resources ($100,000?) on breaking into my phone, it would happen. Or if a rogue police officer wanted to acquire a detailed location track for me going back a few months, it would happen. Meanwhile, if anybody working for my carrier decides they want to see which devices connect to GrapheneOS web servers, they will turn up my device.
Meanwhile, I don't particularly want to Google to know who I text and call, or to have a location track for me, and I think they mostly don't. I don't want Facebook to know who my friends are, and I think they mostly don't.
For me those are very different problem classes. "They" aren't one group of people, and "they" don't all have the same abilities. Part of my thinking is that there is no way to carry around a cellular-connected device, and to use cloud services, and meanwhile to conceal everything about me from everybody. I believe it is necessary to decide what you want to conceal from whom, and how much effort/inconvenience/money you are willing to pay.
In answer to your question: if you use "privacy software" in a general sense, then it's pretty likely that somebody in a general sense will detect that. If you use Vanadium, or Brave, or Mull, etc., some web sites that want to detect that will probably detect it. If you use a VPN, your cellular carrier will know that you are using a VPN, and your VPN provider will know which web sites you use.
Meanwhile, if you use Google Voice, or Google's dialer, or RCS, probably Google does know who you call and text. If you use Facebook, they probably know where you live and when you wake up and sleep.
Personally I don't believe it's possible to spend lots of time online but to remain inside a general privacy bubble. To some extent, spending more time/effort/money can improve privacy, especially if the time/effort/money is focused on privacy from specific entities. But after a point increasing the amount of time/effort/money by modest amounts no longer results in even modest privacy increases. It is possible to spiral into spending more and more time/effort/money while still feeling that somebody still knows things about you. I prefer to avoid that.
And there are specific "privacy" things that I personally suspect result in increased attention. IMEI editing... data-only international-roaming SIM cards... I suspect those things aren't adding privacy for most people who are doing them.
Just my thoughts!