ZorroV999 it sounds like you made your decision already, and that's good and right. iOS comes with many convenience features and a unified, pretty UI. Compared to almost every Android device they are also better security- and privacy-wise.
I personally would never use an iPhone because of the lack of control. Apple likes to boss you around regarding apps you can install and customization you can apply. There's simply nothing like NewPipe, InnerTune and Molly on iOS. I also don't like their anti-repair agenda, premium prices and "design flaws" (notch, sharp edges, uneven camera bump). And finally I'd felt spied on by Apple at all times because they force me into creating an Apple ID and only use their app store which they track my behavior in to serve me ads.
GrapheneOS gives me all of the control and freedom I desire while adding a lot of security by default on top. The price I pay is to have an inconsistent design and workflow across apps. I understand that for many people iOS makes sense and is probably the right choice for them as long as they are aware of (and okay with) giving Apple a lot of control over their device and data. I just wish Apple was more honest and transparent about this, but you don't become a trillion dollar company with honest marketing I guess.