To kind of summarize what I was getting at above:
With Apple I have been promised that my data is private and secure. I'm taking that on trust but so far the track record has been really, really good, by design and in practice.
With GrapheneOS I have something that is even more private and secure and I don't have to rely on the company. But I give up a ton of convenience and features that Apple has, unless I start installing some of the Google stuff.
With Google I have a company that has all but sworn to do everything in their power to collect as much data on me as possible. Once I let them onto GrapheneOS, I don't know what's happening. Less than other Android systems for sure, but are there things I don't know about?
So which do you pick? The devil with the good track record, or the devil that you think you might be able to control? Or neither and give up a ton of usability and convenience?