CCz installing anti virus software and a VPN ?
An antivirus and VPN are not designed as magic cures for security vulnerabilities. Proper security patches are needed so unsupported handsets are inherently insecure, period. This is why GOS firmly recommend to use only supported devices and to update when your device is EOL.
CCz should this be closed once Graphene OS has been installed?
Yes. GOS installation instructions are quite clear that this should be done after installation is finished.
CCz If ever i have to wipe the device will it go back to the Google OS or will it start a fresh Graphene OS
Starting to think you haven't really read the installation page, as its quite clear what you need to do to install Stock OS again. "Wiping a device" means factory resetting, I assume, which will reset to a fresh GOS install and not Stock OS.