So from what I've gathered it is an integral part of the OS that I don't believe GrapheneOS team wants to mess around with so the only way to get this under control is to ask the developers of the apps exibiting this problem.
This also means stock messaging apps will probably need to go and get replaced by some other apps.
Please tell me if i'm wrong but it seems like everyone is stuck crying about the new UI (which I think is a breah of fresh air)
Thanks.